Well a lot resentful. Filled with resentment in fact. Basically my partner and I are both in a fair whack of debt - debt we can pay off I might add - but we also have a wedding coming up that needs to be paid for. Now I've figured out how I can pay for my dress, the wedding rings, the bridesmaids outfits, the music and the cake. What I haven't figured out how to pay for is the engagement ring. Now OK that's technically my partners responsibility but after agreeing a budget with him (and coming in under budget) he now doesn't have the money to pay for it cos he spent it. And he doesn't know what he spent it on. So I can't have my engagement ring yet cos we don't have the money for it. I'm frantically trying to sort out my finances and find the money from somewhere but I'm really struggling with this.
I've cut back my spending as much as I can -I spent less than £20 on food this week - but I will really struggle to do this on my own. We need to work together as a team to get this money together, but he refuses to even look at ways he can cut back on his spending. I mean even if he gave up fags like he says he wants to that would be £30 a week that could go towards the ring. Alright, so if we were depending on that money for the ring, it would be 18months before I got it, but if we found another £100 a month each I could have it in time for my birthday. Tht's a mere 2months before the wedding. I feel really really resentful that he won't even consider making cutbacks like I am - he just doesn't see all the luxuries we have.
I suppose most of all I'm resenting the fact that he isn't even prepared to go through a monthly budget with me and see where we can save money. I mean, I admit there's probably places I can cut back - I just can't see them right now. Surely that's part of the role of a partner? Honestly, things will be so much easier when we're living together - we'll be £500 a month better off for a start!!
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