Sad times

My godson’s brother’s third birthday was yesterday. It was a very sad day. Y’see  the child passed away (cot death) two years ago. He didn’t live to see his first birthday. It’s funny, my friend gets sad on the anniversary of his death, but it’s his birthday that really hits her hard. It’s the passing of the milestones, comparing what his progress might have been compared to his brothers.

She has three living sons, a good partner who is now being called Dad by the other three, a group of friends, some of whom have also lost children, surrounding her and supporting her……..

But this time of year is such a sad time for her, my heart bleeds. I want to help, even though there’s nothing I can do. I want to be there, but it’s not possible with a 4hr drive each way. I want to do something.

But then I remember it’s not about me and what I want. As long as she’s ok, that’s what’s important.

It has made me get out the calendar and start planning in when I can make a trip down there though. The godson’s birthday is in November; that would be a good excuse.

In the meantime, just keep praying for her and for Tobi and trying to make sure I’m at the end of a phone if needed.